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Betrayal Trauma Healing in Mesa, AZ
You’ve done everything right—meeting their needs, giving the benefit of the doubt, forgiving and moving on. But something still feels wrong. There’s a wall between you and your partner that you can’t explain. Subtle signs make you wonder: the computer screen changes when you walk in, the phone is swiped away quickly, and the tension in the air is undeniable.
Then comes the disclosure. Betrayal, deceit, confusion, and overwhelming emotions all hit at once. Your world starts to spin, leaving you feeling like the ground beneath your feet has disappeared.
The foundation you thought you had? It now feels like an illusion. Your emotions are suddenly out of control, and you find yourself reacting instead of responding. You ask yourself, “What is happening to me?” Sound familiar?
Feeling something is off?
Meet Kirsty, LAC
Hey, I’m Kirsty— a recovering people-pleaser turned counselor, passionate about helping others build self-esteem, set healthy boundaries, and heal from trauma. After earning a degree in Vocal Performance and spending years teaching, my own experiences with my own experiences with trauma, grief, and vulnerability led me to pursue a Master’s degree in counseling.
Now, I want to empower others to navigate emotions, embrace healing, and rediscover their strength. Married for over 20 years with four children, I find joy in the simple moments and am dedicated to guiding others on their healing journeys.
"Without Kirsty, I don't know where I would be right now. I'm so thankful for her!"
"Kirsty absolutely transformed the way we thought of our relationship. Can't recommend her enough."
- Anonymous
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Services
Couples Therapy
Individual therapy
Betrayal Trauma
GROUP therapy
HOW I CAN HELP
Recognize Patterns
Build Confidence
Heal Trauma
Learn how to identify the subtle and overt signs of abuse and betrayal in relationships. By understanding these patterns, you’ll be equipped to respond with clarity and confidence, taking the first steps toward healing.
Healthy boundaries are essential for emotional well-being. Together, we’ll work on developing strong boundaries that protect your emotional space, help you feel empowered, and foster healthier connections.
When you’re ready, we’ll dive into trauma recovery using techniques like EMDR and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). These powerful therapies can help you process past pain, regain control over triggers, and move forward with renewed strength.
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"Meeting Kirsty has changed my life."
It has been so beneficial to be able to talk to someone who has been through traumatic experiences similar to mine. I believe because of her own experiences, personal and professional, she has been able to help me through the most difficult time of my entire life. She has led me to resources that aid in healing that would have been hard to find without someone guiding me. She is reassuring and non-judgmental of whatever I share with the goal of helping me find peace. She has also been available when I need her most. I highly recommend seeing Kirsty if you’d like help in healing from trauma, getting to know yourself, and aligning your life with your true values. If you feel like you are drowning, she can teach you how to keep your head above water.
- Anonymous Individual
Resources
What is Betrayal Trauma?
Learn the 5-H’s of Betrayal Trauma & how to identify them in your life.
Betrayal trauma happens when someone you deeply trust—whether for love, security, or survival—violates that trust through infidelity, lies, abuse, or broken promises. It leaves you feeling unsafe and disconnected. Often subtle at first, betrayal can be easier to spot when you know the signs.
Look for the "5 H's": Hiding, Hating, Hugging, Hovering, and Hopelessness—behaviors that signal a loss of trust, safety, or attachment.
Betrayal can mimic PTSD, overwhelming your mind with trauma that feels beyond normal human experience. But healing is possible.
Ready to take the first step toward rebuilding trust and peace? Schedule an appointment today and let’s begin your healing journey together.
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Recovering from betrayal trauma requires making some important adjustments, and setting boundaries is key to your healing. Boundaries help you separate what’s yours to handle and what’s not. At first, in an unhealthy relationship, you might hear things like, “You’re trying to control me,” but what your partner is really saying is, “I’m losing the control I used to have over you, and I’m feeling the consequences of not controlling myself.”
The truth is, setting healthy boundaries is the only way to truly love both yourself and others. As trauma expert Ryan North explains, “Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection. That’s why healthy relationships are hard for wounded people.”
Ready to start setting boundaries and reclaiming your peace? Schedule a session today and let’s work on your healing journey together.
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FOR GROUPS
Betrayal Trauma Intensive
6-Week Course for Women
Are you struggling with the aftermath of betrayal in your relationships? Join us for an intensive educational experience designed to help you navigate your healing journey.
Together, we'll explore the psychological impact of betrayal trauma, learn effective tools and techniques for emotional healing, and engage in uplifting discussions with others who understand.
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Begin your healing journey from Betrayal Trauma today. With the right support, you can rediscover your vibrant, confident self, setting new boundaries, embracing self-care, and shedding the weight of trauma. You are worthy of love, peace, and joy—and always have been. Let’s work together to rewire your mind for connection and bring light back into your life.
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Whether you're ready to take the first step in your healing journey or just need someone to listen, I'm here for you. Reach out today, and together we’ll work towards finding peace, strength, and a path forward. You don’t have to do this alone. If you have any questions, feel free to use the contact form below.
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~ Kirsty
What is Betrayal Trauma?
Learn the 5-H’s of Betrayal Trauma & how to identify them in your life.
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I know this journey hasn’t been easy, and right now, it feels like you’re standing in the middle of a storm, struggling to see the light. But I want you to know something important: the strength you need is already inside of you, waiting to be uncovered.
I’m living proof of that. I’ve made it through, and so will you. Together, we’ll face the pain, the fear, and the uncertainty, and on the other side, you’ll find healing, peace, and a future filled with hope.
You deserve a life full of trust, connection, understanding, and confidence. You will rediscover yourself—stronger, braver, and more at peace than you’ve ever imagined.
I’m waiting for you here, and I can tell you without a doubt: it’s worth it. Every step of the way is worth it. Trust this process, take that step, and know that you are worth every moment of healing.
With love and strength,
Your Future Self